Actually,

　　Haven'tyounoticedthatit'susuallythepeoplewhodon'tcareaboutrespectthatgetitthemost?

　　It'skindoflikeauthority,ifyoutrytoforceitoneveryone,nobodyreallyrespectsyourauthority,butifyou'redoingthingswithoutintent,theneverybodyseemstorespectyou.

　　That'showI'venoticedinmylifeatleast.Lifeexperience.

　　Wewantrespect,becausewewanttofeelsafe.Thatnobodywillhurtusordisrespectourego...etcetc.Butthat'sthewrongwaytogoaboutit.Tryingtogetrespectinordertofeelsafeiskindofbackwards.PeoplerespectyoubecauseYOUmakethemsafe.Nottheotherwayaround.

　　I'mnottryingto..."lecture"youonthis.BecauseIknowmyselfasateacher,authorityandrespectarethingsyouneedinyourjob.Andwhenyoudon'thavethemthereisalotoffrustration.

　　I'vetriedtoforcebothconceptsonpeopleanditjustdidn'twork.WHenIfinallystoppedcaring,that'swhenitseemstofallintoplace.