Weallknowthatmoneycan'tbuyhappinessbutmanytimesweactasifwewerehappierwithabitmoremoney.Weareconditionedtowanttoberich(whenweknowthericharen'thappyeither);wearetrainedtowantthelatestgadget(asmallto

　　Weallknowthatmoneycan'tbuyhappinessbutmanytimesweactasifwewerehappierwithabitmoremoney.Weareconditionedtowanttoberich(whenweknowthericharen'thappyeither);wearetrainedtowantthelatestgadget(asmalltool)orstylethattelevisiontellsustowant;wewanttoearnmoremoneybecausethenwe'llhaveagoodlife.

　　Butnoneofthemwillbringushappiness.Nomatterhowmuchweearnnomatterhowmuchwehaveinthebanknomatterhowniceourclothingorcarsortoysnoneofthemwillmakeushappier.Andthesadthingisthatitcouldtakeusdecadestopursuewealthandluxurious(奢侈)itemsbeforewerealizethis.

　　Sowhatwillbringushappiness?Luckilyit'sthesethreethingsthatdon'tcostathing.Thesethreethingshavebeenprovenbysurveysofhundredsofthousandsofpeopleaboutwhattheyhavewhattheirlivesarelikeandhowhappytheyare.

　　HeretheyaretheThreeSecretstoHappiness:

　　1.Goodrelationships.Wehaveahumanneedtobeclosetoandtobeintimatewithotherhumanbeings.Havinggoodandsupportivefriendshipsastrongmarriageorcloseandlovingrelationshipswithourfamilymemberswillmakeusmuchmorelikelytobehappy.

　　Actionsteps:Taketimetodaytospendtimewithyourlovedonestotellthemwhattheymeantoyoutolistentothemandtodevelopyourrelationshipswiththem.

　　2.Positivethinking.I'mobviouslyabigsupporterofpositivethinkingasthebestwaytoachieveyourgoalsanditturnsoutthatitcanleadtohappinesstoo.Optimismandself-esteemaresomeofthebestindicatorsofpeoplewholeadhappylives.Happypeoplefeelempoweredtakecontroloftheirlivesandhaveapositiveoutlookonlife.

　　Actionsteps:Makepositivethinkingahabit.Infactthisshouldbeoneofthefirsthabitsyoudevelop.Getintothehabitofgettingridofallnegativethoughtsandreplacingthemwithpositiveones.Insteadof"Ican't"think"Ican".Itmaysoundsillybutitworksformeeverytime.

　　3.Flow.ThisisapopularconceptontheInternetthesedays－astateweenterwhenwearecompletelyfocusedontheworkortaskbeforeus.Wearesoburiedinourtaskthatwelosetrackoftime.Havingworkandleisurethatgetyouinthisstateofflowwillalmostundoubtedlyleadtohappiness.Peoplefindgreates