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  【Ifyouwanttoteachyourchildrenhowtosaysorry,youmustbegoodatsayingityourself,especiallytoyourownchildren.Buthowyousayitcanbequitetricky.Ifyousaytoyourchildren"I'msorryIgotangrywithyou,but...",whatfollowst】

  Ifyouwanttoteachyourchildrenhowtosaysorry,youmustbegoodatsayingityourself,especiallytoyourownchildren.Buthowyousayitcanbequitetricky.

  Ifyousaytoyourchildren"I'msorryIgotangrywithyou,but...",whatfollowsthat"but"canmaketheapologyineffective:"Ihadabadday"or"yournoisewasgivingmeaheadache"leavesthepersonwhohasbeeninjuredfeelingthatheshouldbeapologizingforhisbadbehaviorinexpectinganapology.

  Anothermeansbywhichpeapleappeartoapologizewithoutactuallydoingsoistosay"I'msorryyou'reupset";thissuggeststhatyouaresomehowatfaultforallowingyourselftogetupsetbywhattheotherpersonhasdone.

  Thenthereisthegeneral,all-coveringapology,whichavoidsthenecessityofidentifyingaspecificactthatisparticularlyhurtfulorinsulting,andwhichthepersonwhoisapologizingshouldpromisenevertodoagain.Saying"I'muselessasaparent"doesnotcommitapersontoanyspecificimprovement.

  Thesepseudo-apologies(假道歉)areusedbypeoplewhobelievesayingsorryshowsweakness.Parentswhowishtoteachtheirchildrentoapologizeshouldseeitasasignofstrength,andthereforenottakethesepseudo-apologies.

  Butevenwhenpresentedwithexamplesofrealapology,childfenstillneedhelptobecomeawareofthecomplexitiesofsayingsorry. Athree-year-oldmightneedhelpinun-derstandingthatotherchildrenfeelpainjustashedoes,andthathittingaplaymateovertheheadwithaheavytoyrequiresanapology.Asix-year-oldmightneedremindingthatspoilingotherchildren'sexpectationscanrequireanapology.A12-year-oldmightneedtobeshownthatdestroyingthebiscuittinwithoutaskingpermissionisacceptable,butthat

  borrowingaparent'sclotheswithoutpermissionisnotIfamotheradds"but"toanapology,________Accordingtotheauthor,saying"Iamsorryyouareupset"mostprobablymeans“_______”Itisnotadvisabletousethegeneral,all-coveringapologybecause_______Welearnfromthelastparagraphthatinteachingchildrentosaysorry_______Itcanbeinferredfromthepassagethatapologizingproperlyis________

  A.thechildmayfindtheapologyeasiertoaccept

  B.thechildmayfeelthatheowesheranapology

  C

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