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　　Whyaresomanypeoplesoafraidoffailure?Quitesimplybecausenoonetellsushowto

　　failso that failurebecomesanexperiencethatwillleadtogrowth.Weforgetthatfailureispart

　　ofthe human conditionandthateverypersonhadtherighttofail.

　　Mostparentsworkhardatpreventingfailureorprotectingtheirchildrenfromtheknowledge

　　that theyhavefailed.Onewayistolowerstandards.Amotherdescribesherchild'shastilymade

　　table as"perfect"eventhoughitdoesn'tstandstill.Anotherwayistoshiftblame.IfJohnfails

　　science his teacherisunfairorstupid.

　　Thetroublewithfailure-preventiondevicesisthattheyleaveachildunequippedforlifeinthe

　　real world.Theyoungneedtolearnthatnoonecanbebestateverything.Noonecanwinallthe

　　time andthatit'spossibletoenjoyagameevenwhenyoudon'twin.Achildwho'snotinvitedtoa

　　birthdaypartywhodoesn'tmakethehonorlistonthebaseballteamfeelsterrible

　　ofcoursebut parentsshouldnotofferaquickconsolationprize(安慰奖)orsay"It

　　doesn'tmatter."Because itdoes. Theyoungshouldbeallowedtoexperiencedisappointmentand

　　behelpedtomasterit.

　　Failureisneverpleasurable.Ithurtsgrown-upsandchildrenalike.Butitcanmakea

　　positive contributiontoyourlifeonceyoulearntouseit.Steponeistoask"whydidIfail?"

　　Don'tblame someoneelse.Askyourselfwhatyoudidwronghowyoucanimprove.If

　　someoneelsecanhelp don'tbeshyaboutinquiring.

　　Successwhichencouragesrepetitionofoldbehaviorisnotnearlyasgoodateacheras

　　failure. Youcanlearnfromabadpartyhowtogiveasecondonefromanill-chosenfirsthouse

　　whatto lookforinasecond.Evenafailurethatseemsdefinitivecanprompt(激起)freshthinking

　　achange ofdirection.After12yearsofstudyingballetafriendofmineauditioned(面试)fora

　　professional company.Shewasturneddown."wouldfurthertraininghelp?"sheasked.Theballet

　　mastershook hishead."Youwillneverbeadancer"hesaid"youhaven'tthebodyforit."

　　Insuchcasesthewaytousef