Thereisforgiveness.WhenI'membarrassinglyloudandcrazyatparties,Scottforgivesme.Whenheconfessedlosingsomeofoursavingsinthestockmarket,Igavehimahugandsaid,"It'sokay.It'sonlymoney."

　　Thereissensitivity.Lastweekhewalkedthroughthedoorwiththatlookthattellsmeit'sbeenatoughday.Afterhespentsometimewiththekids,Iaskedhimwhathappened.Hetoldmeabouta60-year-oldwomanwho'dhadastroke.Heweptasherecalledthewoman'shusbandstandingbesideherbed,caressingherhand.Howwashegoingtotellthishusbandof40yearsthathiswifewouldprobablyneverrecover?Ishedafewtearsmyself.Becauseofthemedicalcrisis.Becausetherewerestillpeoplewhohavebeenmarried40years.Becausemyhusbandisstillmovedandconcernedafteryearsofhospitalroomsanddyingpatients.

　　Thereisfaith.LastTuesdayafriendcameoverandconfessedherfearthatherhusbandislosinghiscourageousbattlewithcancer.OnWednesdayIwenttolunchwithafriendwhoisstrugglingtoreshapeherlifeafterdivorce.OnThursdayaneighborcalledtotalkaboutthefrighteningeffectsofAlzheimer'sdiseaseonherfather-in-law'spersonality.OnFridayachildhoodfriendcalledlong-distancetotellmeherfatherhaddied.Ihungupthephoneandthought,Thisistoomuchheartacheforoneweek.Throughmytears,asIwentouttorunsomeerrands,Inoticedtheboisterousorangeblossomsofthegladiolusoutsidemywindow.Iheardthedelightedlaughterofmysonandhisfriendastheyplayed.Icaughtsightofaweddingpartyemergingfromaneighbor'shouse.Thebride,dressedinsatinandlace,tossedherbouquettohercheeringfriends.Thatnight,Itoldmyhusbandabouttheseevents.Wehelpedeachotheracknowledgethecyclesoflifeandthatthejoyscounterthesorrows.Itwasenoughtokeepusgoing.

　　Finally,thereisknowing.IknowScottwillthrowhislaundryjustshyofthehampereverynight;he'llbelatetomostappointmentsandeatthelastchocolateinthebox.HeknowsthatIsleepwithapillowovermyhead;I'lllockusoutofthehouseataregularbasis,andIwillalsoeatthelastchocolate.

　　Iguessourlovelastsbecauseitiscomfortable.No,theskyisnotbluer:it'sjustafamiliarhue.Wedon'tfeelparticularlyyoung:we'veexperiencedtoomuchthathascontributedtoourgrowthandwisdom,takingitstollonourbodies,andcreatedourmemories.

　　Ihopewe'vegotwhatittakestomakeourlovelast.Asabride,IhadScott'sweddingbandengravedwithRobertBrowning'sline"Growoldalongwithme!"We'refollowingthoseinstructions.

　　Ifanythingisreal,theheartwillmakeitplain.

　　..不错吧...