【阅读理解。Likemostbigprojectslearningtomanageyourmotherwelliswhatyoushoulddo.HerearewhatIbelievethebeststepstowardsabetterrelationshipwithher.Theyarenotnecessarilysurprisingorrevolutionarybutt】

　　阅读理解。

　　Likemostbigprojectslearningtomanageyourmotherwelliswhatyoushoulddo.HerearewhatIbelieve

　　thebeststepstowardsabetterrelationshipwithher.Theyarenotnecessarilysurprisingorrevolutionarybut

　　theyhaveworkedformanypeople.Trythem.

　　Rememberyourmother'sage.Aschildrenweoftendonotthinkofourmotherashavinganage.Even

　　whenwebecomeconsciousofherasanindividualagedoesnotchangeourview;sheisstillourmother.

　　Knowingourmother'sagenotjustinnumbersofyearsbutintermsofherpsychologicalandphysicalstate

　　oftenhelpsustounderstandherbetter.

　　Listentoyourmother.Ihavefoundthatsometimesthethingsmymothertoldmelongagoareremarkably

　　useful.Ifyourmotherknowsthatyourespectherpointofviewevenifyoudonotshareititwillhelpher

　　feelclosetoyou.

　　Rememberthatyourmotherhasapast.Akeystepinmanagingourrelationshipwithourmotheristofind

　　outaboutherearlylife.Niclle'smothersufferedmuchduringtheSecondWorldWar."Myparentsareboth

　　Jewish-Turkish.TheymetinFranceandmarriedyoungforlove.Theywereintheirtwentieswhenwarbroke

　　outandbecausetheywereJewstheyhadtogointohiding.ShedoesspeaktomeaboutthewarandIthinkit

　　isimportanttoknowwhatshewentthrough.Itisapartofherlifethatmusthaveaffectedherdeeply."

　　Sometimesinlearningaboutourmother'spastweknowthatitcanencourageustothinkaboutherwholelife.

　　Askyourmotheraboutyourchildhoodhistory.MygrandparentsdiedwhenIwasyoung.Ifyouare

　　fortunateenoughtohavelivingfamilythinkofyourlifeasajigsaw(拼图)puzzleandaskasmanyquestions

　　asyoucantoputthepicturetogether.Understandingyourrootsandyourchildhoodcanhelpyouknowmore

　　clearlywhoyouareaspartofafamilywhichyousharewithyourmother.

　　Keepasenseofhumoraboutyourmother.IhaveoftenlistenedtostoriesofdifficultmothersandIhave

　　alsolistenedtothefollowingpieceofadvicewhichIhavefoundmosthelpful:Don'thaveasenseofhumor

　　failureaboutyourmother.

　　Rememberthatmanagingyourmothe