ResponsibilityisKeytoaSuccessfulMarriage

　　Wehaveheardofmanypeoplewhojumpintomarriagequicklywithoutfullyunderstandingandrealizingtheseriousnessofthiswayoflife.Feelingsomuchinlove,manyyoungcouplesstopthereandsay"Nothingelsemattersaslongaswearetogether."

　　Doesthissoundfamiliar?

　　Thenextthingweknow,someofthemhaveseparated.Why?Didn'ttheyjustsay"aslongaswe'retogether?"Fromthisstatementalone,itseemedthatbothhavenotbeenproperlyinformedandcounseledwhatmarriageisallaboutandtheirrolesashusbandandwife.

　　Whenthehoneymoonisover,realitysetsin.

　　Marriageisnotagameoraplayhouse.Itistheunionofhusbandandwife.Throughtheirloveforoneanother,theyhavetakenthesteptolivetheirlivestogetherformingafamily.Thereforeanimportantaspectthatacouplemusttakeinmarriageisresponsibility.Marriagemeansresponsibility.

　　Wehavemetwiveswhoareseparatedandwhosaidthattheirmarriagefailedbecauseherhusbandwasirresponsible.Weaskedtheminwhatwayweretheyirresponsible?Oneresponseisthatthehusbandjustdelegateshisresponsibilitiestohiswife.Forexample,heletsthewifeworkandtakecareofthefinanceswhilehejuststayscomfortablyathome.Anothersaidthatthehusbandwouldrunawayfromproblemsinsteadoffacingthemandfindingsolutions.Anotheronecannothandletheresponsibilityoftakingcareofchildren.

　　Thishappensviceversawhenthewifetoodoesnotliveuptoherroleasawifeandmother.

　　Haven'tyouheardparentssaytotheirchildren"Youmustberesponsibleindoingyourhomework"meaning,"itisyourduty."Inasimilarway,husbandsandwivesexpecttheothertoberesponsibleasaspouseandparent.Whenthisdoesnothappen,problemsstarttooccurbetweenthem.Wewillstarttohearthewords"Howirresponsiblecanyouget!""Youshouldhavedonethisorthat!"Eachonewillstarttoblametheother.