【Exchangeaglancewithsomeonethenlookaway.Doyourealizethatyouhavemadeastatement?Holdtheglanceforasecondlongerandyouhavemadeadifferentstatement.Holditfor3secondsandthemeaninghaschangedagain.Foreveryso】
Exchangeaglancewithsomeonethenlookaway.Doyourealizethatyouhavemadeastatement?Holdtheglanceforasecondlongerandyouhavemadeadifferentstatement.Holditfor3secondsandthemeaninghaschangedagain.Foreverysocialsituationthereisapermissibletimethatyoucanholdaperson’sgazewithoutbeingintimaterudeoraggressive.Ifyouareonanelevatorwhatgaze-timeareyoupermitted?Toanswerthisquestionconsiderwhatyoutypicallydo.Youverylikelygiveotherpassengersaquickglancetosizethemup(打量)andtoassurethemthatyoumeannothreat.Sincebeingclosetoanotherpersonsignalsthepossibilityofinteractionyouneedtosendoutasignaltellingothersyouwanttobeleftalone.SoyoucutoffeyecontactswhatsociologistErvingGoffiman(1963)calls“adimmingofthelights”.Youlookdownatthefloorattheindicatorlightsanywherebutintoanotherpassenger’seyes.Shouldyoubreaktheruleagainststaringatastrangeronanelevatoryouwillmaketheotherpersonextremelyuncomfortableandyouarelikelytofeelabitstrangeyourself
Ifyouholdeyecontactsformorethan3secondswhatareyoutellinganotherperson?Muchdependsonthepersonandthesituation.Forinstanceamanandawomancommunicateinterestinthismanner.Theytypicallygazeateachotherforabout3secondsatatimeandthendroptheireyesdownfor3secondsbeforelettingtheireyesmeetagain.Butifonemangivesanothermana3-second-plusstarehesignals“Iknowyou”.“Iaminterestedinyou.”or“YoulookpeculiarandIamcuriousaboutyou.”Thistypeofstareoftenproduceshostilefeelings.
1.Itcanbeinferredfromthefirstparagraphthat__________.
A.everyglancehasitssignificance(meaningorimportance)
B.staringatapersonisanexpressionofinterest
C.agazelongerthan3secondsisunacceptable
D.aglancecarriesmoremeaningthanwords
2.Ifyouwanttobeleftaloneonanelevatorthebestthingtodois________.
A.tolookintoanotherpassenger’seyes
B.toavoideyecontactswithotherpassengers
C.tosignalyouarenotathreattoanyone
D.tokeepadistancefromotherpassengers
3.By“adimmingofthelights”ErvingGoffimanmeans________.
A.closingone’se