TodayinChina,manyfamilieshaveonlyonechild.Sothechildrenusuallydoteduponbyallfamilymembers.Graduallysomeofthemgetusedtodependingontheirparentsandlacktheabilitytosolveproblemsindependently.

　　Therearesomewaystohelpchildrentobeindependent.Firstly,thechildshouldhaveachancetoseetheworldaroundhim.Hemustunderstandthatthererevariouscompetitionsinthisworld,andeveryonecanfindhisrightpositioninthesocietyonlybyindividualefforts.Secondly,theparentsshouldgivethechildenoughhelptomakehimfeelcomfortable.Itsimpossibletoaskachildnottodependonparentsatonce.Achildneedshelpfromthebeginning.Withoutanyhelp,thechildmaylosehisfaith.Thirdly,parentsshouldlethischildmakedecisions,whichcantemperhisabilitytodealwithproblems.Achildshouldbepraisedwhenheissuccessfulorwhenhefails.

　　Tobeindependentisgoodforthechildren,becausenoparentscanaccompanythechildrenforthewholelife.Itisthechildhimselfwhoisresponsibleforherownfate.Onlyanindependentpersoncanliveandsucceedinthisworld.