Asawoman,oneofthebiggestmistakesI'vemadethatmistakeoncetheloveoflifeasawhole.Duringthattime,wecansayonlyliveforlove,toloveasallthehopeandmeaningoflife.Ofcourse,loveandfinallyoutofthequestion.Fortunately,laterIrealizedthatloveisjustapartoflife,thatpartofitisnotevenapillarof,butforthelifeofthatpartoftheicingonthecake.

　　Atthattime,Ithinkitisaproblembecauseofthelovethathebegantogowrong,lifebegantogowrong.Infact,whenlookingbackfoundthat,infact,whenIfirstwentwrong,entangledinavarietyofinexplicablefearamongthehaplesslovewillfollow.Whenloveiswhensomethinggoeswrong,iftwopeoplelovejustwanttofix,ratherthanobjectivelyreflectandimproveyourself,thenonceagainabeautifullove,rescueisnotcomingback.ApersonlikeangerWang,fromchickenpox,youdonottrytosendafire,justtouchsomeacneplaster,willnothavemuchuse.

　　Later,Iwillnolongerworryabout.Fearwillonlymakeagoodthingbad,badthingworse.Manygirlssaidtome:"Ijustdidnotfeelsafe."Butthe"security"iswhat?Whatmenreallygiveyouasenseofsecurity?Maybeyou'reworriednow,whytheyhavenotfoundaboyfriend;whenyoufindaboyfriend,youbegantoworry,hedoesnotmarrymehowtodo;whenhemarriedyou,youhavetoworryabouthisderailedhowmanypeopledo......soagainandagainworriedendlessly,wherethereistimetoenjoythelove?Tofeelthelovethemostsincere,mostbeautifulpart?

　　Thereisnosenseofsecurity,eitherfromtheirowndistrust;eitherduetodistrusteachother.Ifyoureallyloveaman,andmakesureheworthyofyourlove,thenchoosetotrusthim.Asfortheirlackoftrust,whichrequireslong-termself-regulationandencouragement.Themostimportantisawoman,nomatterhowcrazyitwaslove,itmusthavesomeoftheirhobbies,theirfriends,theirownideas,andmoreimportantly-theremustbeanindependentpersonality.Onlyinthiswaywillyoutrustyourself.

　　Donotputtheblameonhisownmisfortunelatelove,orloveringtrue,infact,whenyoutakecareofallpartsoflifeinadditiontoloveoutsidetheharvestyouwillnaturallywanttolove.